LGBTQ Bill of Rights
All people struggle, to some degree, with feelings of inadequacy. When left unchecked, these feelings can develop into a toxic belief-system that tells us that we are defective, inherently bad, or just not good enough. Oftentimes, these beliefs start with childhood.
Many people grow up in households where they are ridiculed or even abused for some aspect of their appearance, personality, or life choices. Even for those with happy upbringings, feelings of low self-worth can bloom and run rampant as we grow older and are exposed to more negative experiences such as rejection, toxic relationships, and damaging media narratives.
As we accept toxic messaging as normal, we often also accept unfair treatment, disrespect, and even threats to our emotional and physical wellbeing.
This is often especially true for members of socially-marginalized groups, like women, minorities, and the LGBTQ community.
In today’s blog post, we will be focusing on the LGBTQ community.
While we have taken great strides toward legal and institutional equality, many people who identify as homosexual, bisexual, trans, or queer still live with an internalized sense of otherness or shame.
Even for those who are “out” and proud, it is not uncommon that LGBTQ folk feel pressure to conform, twist, or hide their identities, mannerisms, or partners in at least some social situations. Whether it’s a hostile work environment or a judgmental familial atmosphere, many people navigate situations and circumstances every day that make them question themselves and their choice to live with freedom and authenticity.
If this sounds familiar to you—if you tend to bottle your feelings up in certain company, if you make yourself small in social settings where you suspect your sexuality might be scrutinized, if you feel unsafe being yourself—it’s time to remember your infinite worth as a human being.
If not counteracted by explicitly supportive, nurturing, and affirming messaging, feelings of inadequacy may easily permeate the psyche and begin to feel normal.
To combat the normalization of low self-worth, we must remind ourselves of our Bill of Rights. Simply put, your Bill of Rights is a personalized list of affirmations curated to assert your birth-given right to certain truths.
Below, find the LGBTQ Bill of Rights to help you remember your worth and assert yourself with healthy boundaries:
AS A MEMBER OF THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY, I AM ALLOWED…
to love who I love
to exist outside of socially accepted standards of gender identification
to exist outside of socially accepted standards of sexual orientation
to challenge laws, authorities, and institutions that threaten my right to be myself
to be unapologetic in my choices
to feel safe and at ease in any environment
to excuse myself from any environment or situation that makes me feel unsafe, threatened, or disrespected
to keep my sexual preferences as public or private as I like
to love and live loudly and without apology
to be exploring who I am
to be sure about who I am
to explore the spectrum of sexuality and self-expression
to dress in whatever clothing feels comfortable and pleasing to me
to enjoy the benefits of monogamy, marriage, and long-term partnership like anyone else
to expect acknowledgement and respect from my family
to expect acknowledgement and respect from my partner’s family
to end relationships that have not evolved to embrace my authentic self
to mend relationships that are important to me
to be a parent and raise healthy, well-rounded children
to choose my preferred gender pronouns
to be more than my sexual or gender identification
It is my sincerest hope that you will keep this LGBTQ Bill of Rights close to your heart. Feel free to add to it whichever truths move your spirit. Remember, as we must respect our own rights so must we respect the right of others to be their authentic selves. So long as it causes no harm or threat to the wellbeing of another individual, we each have the right to think, speak, and do as most genuinely reflects our purest nature.
DO YOU STRUGGLE WITH SHAME SURROUNDING YOUR SEXUAL ORIENTATION OR GENDER IDENTITY? DO YOU WISH TO LEARN HOW TO SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES FOR UNSUPPORTIVE FAMILY OR COWORKERS? Contact Dr. Logan for a complimentary phone consultation at 646.798.8354.
Dr. Logan Jones is a licensed psychologist and founder of NYC Therapy + Wellness in the Flatiron District of New York City. He works one on one with clients to build confidence, uncover the root of emotional, mental, and behavioral disturbances, and build a path toward personal development and expansion. Logan works with a wide range of clientele, including LGBTQ persons struggling with relationship concerns, identity issues, anxiety, depression, and more. If you require assistance embracing and asserting your authentic self, reach out today.
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